How popular is that!

Now if your counting I will skip reason eight and go on to reason nine and ten as to why we are still married.  Maybe if I can bring it out correctly we will discuss number eight later.  This one might bring me some strange looks.  Let's consider the animals for a moment.  Male and Female God created each and every species.  In every specie of animals both male and female have roles that contribute to the success of a union.  I heard that there is a spider whose only means of mating is rape. They hide in the brush and bait females with a food trap, then they literally jump on them and mate.  HOLD ON, don't be jumping to no conclusions.  The point I am making with this harsh reality is that both male and female spiders are content with this arrangement.  Sometimes it is the female that does the hunting and the males lie around doing nothing.  The reality is that both sexes in the animal world live out their existence within their roles.

Gaylene and I have both agreed to do our part to make our marriage work.  We have roles in our relationship that we have simply accepted as to what contributes to a healthy marriage.  Does this mean I only do what I feel is my role.  Absolutely not.  This is what sets humans apart from the animal world. We need to contribute within the agreement of the couple, our roles or parts.  And since we Love our partners, help them in theirs.  I think it is so important to work out what we will bring to the relationship, and to do it with joy, knowing we are pleasing our mates.  Gaylene and I have found that what we bring to the relationship and how we please our mates is what pleases God and so God blesses these marriages.  So reason number nine......Take Joy in pleasing your mate.  Even if you have maintained the yard for years, or made meals forever!  There is a greater lesson here I want to get across. 

There is a story of a man who died and went to heaven to find two signs above two different lines. One sign said: "ALL THOSE MEN WHO HAVE BEEN DOMINATED BY THEIR WIVES, STAND HERE." That line of men seemed to stretch off through the clouds into infinity.

The second sign read: "ALL THOSE WHO HAVE NEVER BEEN DOMINATED BY THEIR WIVES, STAND HERE." Underneath the sign stood one man.
He went over to the man, grabbed his arm and said, "What's the secret, how did you do it? That other line has millions of men and you are the only one standing in this line."
The man looked around with a puzzled expression and said, "Why, I am not sure I know. My wife just told me to stand here."

Seriously.......Men be leaders in your marriage. #1 responsibility

But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman, and God is the head of Christ. 1 Corinthians 11:3

responsibility number  2 Love your wife unconditionally.

Ephesians 5:25 reads, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her."

and responsibility number 3  Serve your wife.

John 13: 1-17  According to the New Testament, being head of your wife does not mean being her master, but her servant. Again, Christ is our model for this type of leadership. Jesus did not just talk about serving; He demonstrated it when he washed His disciples' feet.